Next Level Love in just 90 minutes.
LET ME GUESS:
You want to meet and build a life with someone who is on your level - maybe you haven't dated in a long time, or maybe you're newly single and tired of the BS (like I was!) – but the whole concept of dating in a sort-of-post-sort-of-still-pandemic world feels very big and overwhelming (like it wasn't hard enough before), so you go look for help...
...and everyone's got the same gross: "5 Dating Rules to Get 'Em to Stick Around," advice that makes you feel like there's something wrong with you or something YOU need to be doing better, unless you pay them 5-6 figures upfront for their personal attention and support (and who knows if it'll *actually* be any better than the crap they're spouting for free)
It's just as icky on the inside. I've heard stories of so-called matchmakers telling people to lie about their careers and hide their true selves. But I digress, that is not what you are here for.
AFTER THE YEARS I SPENT SHAPE-SHIFTING, HIDING, AND PEOPLE-PLEASING...
I DEFINITELY DID NOT HAVE THE ENERGY OR PATIENCE TO TRY AND FIT INTO ANYONE ELSE'S RULES WHEN I STARTED DATING AGAIN.
Back in 2015, when I joined the dating apps, all I knew was that I was ready to meet my wife.
I was starting this process to create something NEW in my love life. Following the same rules that got me into unfulfilling relationships was not an option.
But the online dating world was still feeding me the same exhausting matches, this one only wants to hook up, that one has their walls up, the other one can't even respond to a message - as if the universe had heard or seen all of this work I'd done to finally see and admit to myself exactly I wanted out of dating - a wife.
SO I LEARNED TO CONNECT AND MAKE MAGIC.
IT TOOK SOME TRIAL AND ERROR...
Playing around with different dating profiles to figure out the best way to present myself
Learning how to attract people who are aligned with what I'm committed to for my future, even if I still have some growing and/or healing to do
Developing a personalized dating approach that is in flow and makes sense for the kind of relationship I want to be creating
BUT I DON'T SUGGEST DOING IT THE WAY I DID IT UNLESS YOU'RE READY TO...
... spend 6-12+ months in the "figuring things out" phase of your dating process
... brace yourself for everything from rude DMs to first date scammers (yep, this actually happened to me - a story for another time) and more exhausting experience as you try different approaches
...be okay with those all too familiar questions that keep coming from friends and family that sounds something like, "you say you want a relationship, why aren't you in one already?"